One thing I hear a lot is the pursuit of happiness. But no one talks about what will be done once this happiness is acquired. It sounds like a drive to the ice-cream shop with the candy in mind, but no plan to deal with the aftermath of the sugar high and spent change.
Here’s what I’ve learned about happiness:
It is very hard work
There is a huge personal sacrifice to finding happiness. One must shed the old self in favour of a new, free being, and our egos are our greatest enemies in this attempt. You don’t just put on happy, or pick it up as you go along. You can’t fill a full cup. Something has to go, and that thing is your ego. Let go of expectations, ideals, perceptions, hurts, prejudices, grudges, regrets, wishes, and now we’re talking.
It must be a priority
Happiness comes about through the decisions we make in our day-to-day life. We must be aware of our choices and make choices that support our want to be happy. To start, we won’t be happy. We’ll have to make a lot of changes that do nothing for us now but build the future. If you want to know your priorities pay attention to your daily schedule. If happiness is your heart’s desire, it’ll be a priority, not a future start date. Doesn’t sound like fun? Yup.
Needs a destination
The pursuit of happiness must have an end destination to be measurable. Peace of mind is important to me because it enables me to be productive. I’m not spending my energy working on my mental frame on mind, I’m doing the things I have planned and want done. Being happy allows me to see opportunities to serve and grow where I otherwise wouldn’t see them, and being happy makes me bless others generously. Happiness is one of the channels I use to meet my overall vision and purpose over my life. At the same time, I have a use for pain and other emotions as well. So what does happiness mean to you and is it tied to a person, place or activity?
Happiness that’s real doesn’t crash. It’s even-keeled, realistic, and not for show. What do you think?