He lost a loved one when he was young. It closed his heart. He fathered a son and became a father – he taught his son to accept loss by the way he acted. While yet alive his death was felt, for he might as well not been alive – to see, to breathe, to hear his son. Participate, give and relate, to his son. Provide, protect, and steer his boy. A death occurred when he first felt his loss, and a cycle started when he handed the keys of his heart to this new boss.