Remember Aesop’s fable, “The Fox and The Grapes?” A fox wanted grapes hung above him, and unable to reach them, walked away thinking the grapes looked sour.
Does this happen when things don’t go your way? This is a defence mechanism. It produces false-positive hope and faith in a plan wrought in strife.
Deflated at rejection, you present yourself with an agreeable defence to the results. What are you to think however, when what you want is out of reach? Can you accept that you failed? Did you? Is it possible that it isn’t personal, and the best thing you could do is take the lessons from the experience?