Is our spiritual relationship crafted after our relationships with our parents/guardians?
To help answer this question, think about these different examples:
1) A person who asks God for help with impossible personal calamities (overdue bills, illness, crumbling relationships)
2) A person who talks to God all day every day (weather, diet, the news, day’s events, goals)
3) A person who prays to say Please and Thank you
4) A person who knows there is, but does not pray to, or otherwise acknowledge God aside from descriptive phrases such as Thank God, only God knows, Oh God, and My God.
Then think of our relationship with our parent/s and areas in which they are strong (negative/positive). Now think of how they, our families, and society taught us to view God.
We have specific ways of engaging with God, and ways of viewing people who are, or claim to be in relationship with Him. Much as we claim that we are not judgmental, we form thoughts/opinions of people, based on what we believe a relationship with God should be like.
The Bible, church and members of society teach us about having a relationship with God. There is however a disconnect between what we are taught, and practice. Do we feel a connection some to most of the time, or do we switch on and off our “I’m a friend of God,” cap. We tend to feel blessed and grateful after a series of wonderful happenings, or fearful and mortal in the face of misfortune, however, where does God surface in the silence of the moments between.
We believe that God is everywhere, and do not need to voice our thoughts for Him to get it, but have we asked Him how He would like us to communicate with Him. Have we asked God a whole series of questions as we would someone we desire to be in a relationship with?
The fear is in questioning God’s actions and motives. To help us understand this, look up the definition of fear, and how it may be confused with reverential awe. Will fearful thoughts not paralyze our growth and learning opportunities, when all we need to do is respectfully ask before making assumptions? Lord, who are you? Teacher, tell me more? Please talk to me about your plans for me, and us.
If we are not even close to being at this level, why not just ask for help, Lord, I think I do, but fear that I do not really know you. Please help me with this. Teach me. How about, Okay, please just talk to me, I do not know what to ask or say. We ask questions in order to learn our school courses, jobs, relationships, purchases etc. When did we decide to assume and not ask where God is concerned?
If we are used to approaching our parents only in times of dire need, we may believe that this is the only time to bug God, when we have legitimate reasons to ask Him for favors. If we are used to asking our parents for everything, and speaking with them on multiple different issues, we may not have any problem at all talking to God about the most mundane aspects of our lives. If we were told what is acceptable and not in terms of behavior, life goals etc by our parents, we would carry this behavior forward with what we presume to be acceptable or not with our Father.
The truth is we decided a long time ago, un/known to us what kind of a relationship we would have with God, not the other way round. We may have decided that He is a mostly silent God so not to bug Him unless we need a healing or a blessing. We may have decided that He is the perfect excuse to escape lived reality and so to use His names in perfunctory phrases, no meaning attached.
We may have decided what He can and cannot do according to what we learned from others. We decided, we assumed, we supposed…what kind of a relationship we would have with God. For the most part, these thoughts are un/knowingly fashioned against our existing relationships, and more so with authoritative/guardian figures.
It is no wonder then that all we end up saying are statements we believe to hold meaning, however, cannot be applied to every single aspect of our lives. For example, we may say that we seek God out in everything, but do we literally do this? For example, it is time to sleep, if it is okay with you Lord, I am going to bed. In this example, we may receive an immediate thought of an uncompleted and completely forgotten task or hazard.
Let us talk about this, stating that we can ask and talk to God just about anything, whether we personally believe it to be important or not.
Why would we not do such a thing? Such a, Lord, I cannot stand the traffic on the way to work, any tips. Lord, I need to find a hobby to take up the extra time after work, what should I do? Lord, I am hungry but do not have anything particular in mind, what say we? Lord, please help me find meaning in this extremely boring session.
Are we going to assume that we are taking up the Lord’s time, or not taking Him seriously? What are a request for a healing and a request for motivation to eat healthy, if not a display of faith either way. Can we truly place our standard of importance and judgment on a God that created atoms, ants, galaxies, amoeba, and water?
We posit that if we believe God created us, this means that He intimately knows every part of our bodies, minds, and souls. There is not a thing about us that He will not have known first before us. Why would He then not care about the small and mundane elements in our lives, if He numbered our hair, or fashioned our earlobe? Is what we decide to be important to our Father, perhaps, based on relationships crafted with mother/father/guardian figures?
If we ask, we will receive answers.
If we are continually speaking with our Creator, it becomes easier to recognize when He is speaking through whatever means. God loves us and knows how to talk to us perfectly. He knows our heart and intentions, so that we cannot justify anything to Him, in form of excuse, pretense etc. We are justified to speak and walk candidly in reverent awe with God, through Christ. If we do not know what to ask, we can ask for that knowledge. If we are afraid to invite His wrath through ignorance, we can tell Him. Ask respectfully but ask.
We will find that in Christ, we have access to an All Almighty and All Powerful Master Creator. Better yet, we will find that He is an All Merciful and All Loving God. What we perceive God to be, is just that, human and imperfect perception.
This is an invitation to ask. It can be as simple as, why do I need Christ Jesus in my life.