The third post in the series: Power of Thought, asks us to think on childhood experiences and building relationships with others. Succeeding in today’s society requires a delicate balance between working for the common good, and securing personal space. We feel both the need to interact with each other, while fiercely competing against the other. Both parts are important to community and personal growth. When we use our strengths in a positive way, we cultivate a balanced environment where our personal growth benefits the community, thus including both the personal need to excel and the need to be of service. To keep the peace, we learn what qualities and virtues in our loved ones and ourselves to ignore. We do this by referring to past experiences, our defence mechanisms, and what we understand of the other personality. Because this is a survival tactic, we aren’t always aware of what we do to keep the peace. Self-examination is a good habit because it shows us childhood defence mechanisms we need to let go to promote growth.